I have been thinking about how as a pastor my job was to help bring people on the margins of the church community closer to the center. It is the job of lay people who interact on a daily basis or through their vocations with outsiders to be an interesting example of a Christian to outsiders. Perhaps pastors should not beat themselves up about not interacting more with non-Christians. This is easy for most of their congregants! Are these not different roles to a large extent? That is not to say pastors should have no non-Christian friends but is not their job to help occasional attenders to get connected?