This is the third and best book of the three parenting books I have read so far. It reflects the difficulty and complexity of parenting. The goal is to raise children of character. This is enormously difficult and the book reflects this. I found it challenging and convicting. I think Rosemond is more focused on ages 2-4, Barna teenagers, and Turansky and Miller on elementary age children which I think explains a lot of the differences.
Positively and negatively, the book is very "evangelical." It is unapologetically Christian--using many references to the Bible. It does not quote any studies or cite data though there is an unnamed "cognitive therapy" approach throughout. The authors are concerned to develop "right thinking" which for them is mature Christian thinking. This is good but it is probably disingenous not to admit the psychological roots of their approach. The way they ground this approach is to liberally sprinkle their approach with references to the word "heart" in the Bible. This is one of the ways that the Bible is used in ways that are arbitrary and misguided. As they admit, the word "heart" is used in a host of different ways. There are many other words in the Bible that convey similar concepts: covenant, love, soul, trust, faith, justice, wisdom, mind, spirit, strength, joy, peace. Still, their use of the word "heart" to emphasize that emotions, character and will are important as opposed to just behavior is most welcome. (Read New Testament scholar Matthew Elliott's book Feel: The Power of Listening to Your Heart (Tyndale: 2008) for more about the importance of emotions for Christians).
Another small example is that the book cites King David as a model father when in reality Solomon and most of his other children (Absalom) did not turn out well.
It is obnoxious that the book advertises "Dr. Scott Turansky" when what he has is a "D.Min"--a three year part-time degree--which hardly compares to the Ph.D., M.D., and Psy.D. that most other parenting experts with the title "Dr." have. (I like D.Min. degrees but they should not be confused with other doctorates. For more about the D.Min. degree, see my post Advice about Duke Th.D. and Ph.D programs in theology)
Turansky and Miller emphasize "Breaks" rather than "Time-outs" (though they are quite similar). An earlier book by them Home Improvement has more details about this.
This book recommends the soft-side of parenting--touch, kindness, gifts and sweetness.
I really liked the emphasis on "teaching" and not "justice" (p. 190).
Even though there are a few criticisms here, I thought all in all the book gives excellent advice that I would wholeheartedly support.
It is very important that you also read my post:
It also has a disclaimer about how I am approaching these books.